Back in the GameJob loss is difficult, but with the right attitude and tactics can have you re-entering the work force better than before. Patricia V. Rivera |
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Recovery took several years, eventually leading to a career change for both of them. Today, as a career coach specializing in job loss, she knows from firsthand experience how to help the increasing number of people in despair turning to her for help.Researchers have found that unemployment can start a vicious cycle of depression, loss of personal control, decreased emotional functioning and poor physical health. Experts like Klippel suggest establishing new routines to keep spirits up and momentum going with the job search.
Deal with EmotionsKlippel says it's important to understand some of the emotional phases associated with a job loss, such as grief, anger, confusion and commitment to making the change.Men in particular feel extreme shame because their identity is so closely tied to their careers, she says. "Some are so afraid to tell their wives that they act like they're going to work every day," she says.An important early step to recovery is to come to terms with the job loss, which nowadays may have more to do with a weak economy than poor job performance.Take the time to deal with the loss and communicate your feeling with loved ones, she adds. They too should have a chance to explain what they're feeling.
Assess the SituationAssume that you may be unemployed for a while. Figure out how you'll pay the bills. The plan may call for a part-time job or unemployment benefits.Rafael Madrid and his wife, Karla, lost their jobs within weeks of each other as well."We sat down and asked each other: What can we live without?" says the Miami resident.
"We were surprised at how well we could make it by cutting back."Klippel says not knowing your financial picture will actually cause you more worry than looking at the situation with both eyes wide open.Once you get a handle on your finances, you can assess other aspects of your life.The Madrids both took the time to evaluate their careers. She found that she enjoyed the type of administrative assistant work that she did but he husband did not want to continue in management. Instead, he decided to take a part-time retail position until he could go back to school for radiology.Klippel says her husband, Larry, also changed career paths from computer programming to desktop publishing. She pursued her passion for coaching."We're both so much happier now," she says.
Set GoalsTreat the job search like a real job that requites you to get up very morning to accomplish a set number of pre-determined tasks.Make a plan for how you'll pursue a new job with target date for each individual task. Schedule activities, such as when you'll update your résumé, write a cover letter, identify local networking opportunities and follow up on the first batch of letters.Klippel strongly advises her clients to establish a daily routine that includes a set time to stop for the day. Sitting in front of a computer all day and night can rob you of emotional and physical energy.
Enjoy the Change of PaceKlippel suggests taking advantage of the time off to work on projects around the house or spend more time with the children.Everything happens for a purpose. Give yourself the opportunity to strengthen from the experience. Take the time to enjoy small pleasures."Laugh, buy a flower to keep on your desk, meditate, read something uplifting, pray, tickle your children or pet your dog," she says.She argues that by deliberately adding joy to your day, you stress and supercharge your energy.
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